Yesterday I had special time with both kids for the first time (on a weekday) in weeks. Where does the time go that I can’t do this more often?
Before I go on, I’d probably better explain special time. It’s a period of time–usually 30 minutes for 3B and 15 minutes for Jewel–when the parents turn all their attention to their child and the child is in charge…within parameters, of course. And yes, that means turning off our phones, iPads, computers and TVs and really tuning into the kids. 3B has a longer time because his activities can be more involved, and Jewel has less because she is often ready to move on sooner, being younger. As she gets older, her time will expand accordingly.
We don’t have time for 1-hour blocks, as USAToday suggests, but the rest of what they describe is pretty much what we do.
So, why don’t we have 1-hour blocks of time? If the kids are such a priority, why doesn’t special time happen more often?
As I’ve thought about this, I’ve thought about my iPhone. No, not that it takes up so much of my day that I don’t have time for my kids, but that it makes the world available to me and it has only four buttons and one switch on it. This is the result of the design philosophy of the man responsible for it, Steve Jobs.
“for Steve, less is always more, simpler is always better. Therefore, if you can build a glass box with fewer elements, it’s better, it’s simpler, and it’s at the forefront of technology. That’s where Steve likes to be, in both his products and his stores.”
― Walter Isaacson, Steve Jobs
The question really isn’t, How do I cram one more thing into my schedule? The question really is, What are the top five things I want to do every day?
After I decide that, I need to have the discipline to do that–to focus on just those five things and drop everything else. Subtraction is additive when we remove what’s unnecessary
So what about you? What are the five things that you most want to do every day?